Funmi Akingbade
Easter holiday is just few hours from now and I would love husbands to make it a memorable period for their wives. Just go extra mile and unravel the wishes that many wives may not be able to say out but which they deeply desire. They are just simple note of caution and attention that many men need to refresh their memories with one more time.
One, make sure sex is on the agenda for this easter holiday.
Two, as soon as this is established, promise yourself that you will not hurry in and out of your best ‘place-of-comfort,’ the vagina.
Three, after you have settled that, find a way of inviting your wife for sex in a very strange way and manner and carefully go down on her nipples, clitoris and vagina in a romantic manner.
Four, nipples, clitoral and vaginal simulation can be the high point of foreplay treat to any wife anytime. It can even be the main event of the night or an erotic need that couple return to frequently during a long luxurious sexual encounter.
Five, manual stimulation is incredibly important for wives to have an orgasm.
Six, most wives need a little more nipple, clitoral and vaginal contact than intercourse. Warm, wet and intimate stimulation can be just as fun and satisfying as full intercourse.
Seven, 87 per cent of wives prefer nipples, clitoral and vaginal caressing to all other forms of foreplay. Many wives fantasise about lying back and having their husbands go down on them, but many cannot express it. Moreover, if you want to sexually pamper your wife or want her to be consumed literally with enticing sexual feeling, try this out tonight.
Eight, there is something about a husband feasting his eyes, hands and mouth on his wife’s nipples, clitoris and vagina that can translate both into another world of ecstasy, bliss and elation. The sensation of the tongue on the nipples, clitoris and vagina is usually enough to make couples hysteric and hyperactive with pleasure.
Nine, however, according to research, many husbands do not lick the right places well or sometimes do not stay long enough to make their wives climax, we shall be looking at the nitty-gritty of nipples, clitoral and vaginal stimulation today.
Ten, to fully comprehend and practise the instruction I would be giving, please bear these few facts in mind: During sex, reach down and rub your wife’s clitoris whenever possible and you are guaranteeing to increase her chances of having orgasm.
Eleven, for many wives, manual stimulation of these areas is the only way they can climax. Rubbing the nipple, vagina and the clitoris the right way is not something the husband just knows how to do, it is something he has to learn. When a wife’s vagina is not yet lubricated, ‘never’ try to insert a finger or penis into it; that is legal raping.
Twelve, studies have shown that husbands staring at their wives’ breasts for 10 minutes a day can improve their total well-being. The human lips, tongues and genitals are the most sensitive areas of their bodies. The strongest muscle in the body is the tongue.
Thirteen, the tip of the clitoris has 700 nerve endings, more than the head of the penis. The most sensitive part of a woman’s vagina is the first two inches; that is where the majority of the nerves endings are located.
Fourteen, a woman’s skin is 10 times more sensitive to touch than men’s own. During arousal, increased blood flow causes a woman’s breast to swell by 25 per cent and when stimulated, the vagina expands by six inches.
Fifteen, as a wife is turned on, blood rushes to her vulva, causing the vagina to release a smooth liquid called ‘drops of Jupiter’.
Sixteen, the average duration of a female orgasm is six seconds. Japanese word for orgasm translates as ‘I have died and gone to heaven.’ Now, carefully stimulating your wife’s nipples, clitoris and vagina can make her also utter this speech.
Seventeen, one step at a time is the best secret code, so while together, have your hands under her, then stroke her clitoris through her panties to build the anticipation of feeling your fingers against her wet skin. Even if you have seen your wife’s nakedness thousand times, don’t rush to take off her panties every time. Take the action to the next level by sliding your hand under her panties.
Eighteen, there is more to the clitoris than meets the eyes, so don’t just rub the nub but start kissing your wife’s knee up to her inner thigh or from her navel down to her clitoris, then directly to her labia, and then find your way to her nipples.
Nineteen, a wife’s inner thighs are very sensitive. Incredibly, some wives can even have orgasm just by massaging their feet. Starting your journey to the clitoris by kissing her thighs is still the best. This gives your wife intense pleasure and builds her anticipation for the thrill to come. Ask her to hold her legs up and out of the way, this allows you better access to the vagina.
Twenty, if you want to hear whether she is moaning with pleasure, ask her not to sandwich your ears with her thighs, you will be amazed with the varieties of ‘melodic rhythms’ coming your way! Pay close attention to the moaning and make sure it is not that of pain.
Twenty-one, go on and stimulate the clitoris and the surrounding areas with all your four fingers. Apply light to firm pressure, using an up-and-down motion, slow circle. All these provide wonderful sensation and are helpful in bringing your wife to climax.
Twenty-two, you can vary the pressure and speed, depending on what she likes best. While on her clitoris, paste several little kisses and flips of the tongue directly around it. On the other hand, you can simultaneously insert your finger into her vagina and caress it as the clitoral kissing is going on, by using the thumb to drive her wide and use the other hand to rub her pubic heap.
Twenty-three, husband, use the tip of your tongue to brush, tap, or flip the clitoris in an up and down and/or side-to-side motion. Try it slowly, then quickly, and even more quickly. The tap can be light or firm. At a stage, many wives could easily climax.
Twenty-four, the other variety of clitoris simulation is the figure ‘8’ technique. This helps you to cover the entire surface of the clitoris.
Twenty-five, all you need to do is use your tongue to draw letter eight alphabets on the clitoris; many husbands I have counselled have reported excellent results from this. You can also circle the clitoris with the tip of your tongue, try doing it very lightly and then with increased pressure, especially when your wife’s clitoris is very sensitive, she will prefer the kind of wide licks you would use when eating or licking an empty plate of tasty soup.
Twenty-six, to win her heart, ask her to stand on a chair and go down on her. This makes her feel she is in control and it gives her a lot of freedom to move and respond and you will at this point have a fantastic view and full access to the ‘holy of holies.’
Twenty-seven, nothing impresses a wife as the ability to be ‘fingered’ when her husband is licking her clitoris. The best way to do this is to steadily lick the clitoris while very slowly sliding one or two fingers in and out of the vagina [so that your palm is facing up]. As she gets more excited, try maintaining a steady, gentleman pulsing pressure on the front [pubic hair] inside wall of the vagina, which is where the ‘G’ spot is located.
Twenty-eighty, the vagina can seem complicated if the husband has not got up close and examine it well. To get to know it well and learn how best to please your wife, position yourself between her widely spread legs to get a good view and then start rubbing in different directions and watch what she responds to best. Notice the hood of the clitoris and the thin layer that covers it. Husband can pull it back to expose the clitoris for ‘excellent servicing.’
Twenty-nine, some wives love being fingered from behind, it is so thrilling and transporting; just bend your wife over the bed, the reading table, a chair, or the couch and massage her bottom while you stimulate her clitoris and vagina.
Thirty, you can make your wife go ‘cowboy’ position by sitting upright and grinding her hips back and forth or rising and lowering her body straight up and down on your penis. By this, she can change the angle of your penis inside her vagina.
Thirty-one, then let her lean back; this will bring the head of your penis in close contact with her ‘G’ spot while you have unlimited access to caress her clitoris, with one hand and the other hand can give her breast plenty of attention, by massaging them or kissing and sucking her nipples.
Thirty-two, one thing is guaranteed. With your wife maintaining a ‘cowboy’ position, there is no dull moment. Wife you must be equally active and attentive. For instance, touching yourself in front of your husband can tell him what you want, rub your clitoris against his pubic hair, while sex is in progress.
Thirty-three, you can lean back on him, make your clitoris a focal point for pleasure and give him the honour of stimulating it. Some wives in their childbearing age sometimes tell me this may not be possible with them, but I know it is because childbirth can increase blood supply to the vagina, making it more responsive and ready for action.
Thirty-four, while all these are taking place, it is important for the wives to take any comfortable position and also be active with their husband’s body.
Thirty-five, whether you are facing your husband’s feet, head, or kneeling in front of him, there are lots of simple things you can do to intensify the fantastic feeling. Caress his balls, play with his pubic hair, or stroke his thighs. You can also enhance his enjoyment by pressing the base of his penis. The husband loves it when a wife plays with his penis while he is taking care of your clitoris. So, take a few seconds to hold and squeeze his organ, paddle it from side to side, rub your face against it or use your hand to slap it gently against your tongue.
Questions and Answers
Does it worth it please?
I dream of building a wonderful future with my present boyfriend but as much as he likes me, he is not willing to commit himself into marriage. I have not seen him with any other woman, yet he said he is not the marriage type. What can I do?
Emily Hamstrung
A committed relationship means sharing your life with someone even during troubled times. And these times are when that love will be most strained. Sometimes such men are just hesitant or more like a commitment-phobe. If he is hesitant to be sure of his decision, he may need extra assurance which I think you should provide or he may altogether be avoiding commitment. I think you have the red light already to help you think twice about putting too much effort into a relationship with the latter one. Ask yourself if they avoid sharing personal information, don’t show an interest in learning about your deep thoughts and feelings, or avoid talking about your relationship. These can all be signs of someone who has no intention of getting deeply attached to another person even when he loves you and showers you with gifts. Sometimes, it may be that they need you to change some things about yourself. Are there changes you are willing to make in yourself that would help him be more willing to commit? Your partner might be hesitant to commit because of concerns about the way the two of you relate, or more specifically about you. For instance, your partner might want you to be more affectionate or to learn to manage your anger better. Rather than just making excuses, you might help your partner make the decision to commit by agreeing to work on these changes. Anyway, I would advise that you do what you can to nurture a more committed relationship. But keep in mind that as long as your partner is not committed, it continues to be your decision as to whether to stay in that relationship or move on and remember if he is not committed, he does not deserve to be given wifely duties. Don’t give free milk; if not, he will never pay for the cow.
Could this be true?
I usually have this terrible back ache each time I make love to my wife of 14 years, it has always been very bad. As a matter of fact, to stand up after each season of sexual involvement is always a painful experience. But recently, I started having sex with her best friend and surprisingly, the three times we have made love so far, I have never for once had any episode of back ache. I am confused and beginning to wonder if it has to do with my wife.
Ogbonna Oluchika
Mr. Ogbonna, there is a tendency of you not experiencing back aches when you make love with your wife’s friend, not because you never had back aches, or it will not resurface, but because of the novelties of first time, novelty of change of sex partner and novelty of newness. This is usually applicable to anything and everything. The spirit of newness usually takes attention off lots of things. I can assure you that after many seasons of sex with this other fellow, you will start experiencing what you used to have with your wife with her also. Besides, stolen sex always seems sweeter because it is simply stolen!
I would rather you look into what makes your back hurt, such as sitting in a hunched posture. If you do it too much, it can flatten the natural curve of your spine and damage the cushioned disks between the bones. If you eat too much of sugary food too often, it can lead to inflammation and leave out nutrients you need to be strong. Your body needs lean protein, whole grains, fruits and veggies and healthy fats like those from avocado and salmon to build strong muscles, bones, and soft tissue in your back. Be sure to get nutrients like calcium, phosphorus, and vitamin D, too. Then if you have sex on the wrong mattress, your back will ache during and after. The mattress should be firm enough to support your back, but soft enough to fit the shape of your body and your wife’s.
Then when you sit, do not slouch as it makes back pain worse. Sit straight in a chair that supports your back and set the height, so your feet rest naturally on the floor. But no matter how comfortable you get, your back won’t like sitting for long stretches. Get up and move around for a couple of minutes every half hour to give your body a break. Also try not to skip exercising, you’re more likely to have back pain if you’re not active. Your spine needs support from strong stomach and back muscles. Lifting weights can help. So, can everyday activities like climbing stairs and carrying groceries. Low-impact exercises like walking, biking, or swimming can help protect the disks between the bones in your spine.
Do you smoke? Smokers are three times more likely to get lower back pain than nonsmokers. It can curb blood flow, including to your spine. That can make the cushioning disks between your bones break down quicker. It also can weaken bones and give you osteoporosis, and it can slow healing. Even coughs from smoking can cause back pain. If you smoke, make quitting your top health priority.
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